Hi, I’m Jim Benson.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully.

For the past 20 years, I have been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” My Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.

  • I’m trained as a professional coach at the Coaches Training Institute and I held the PCC (Professional Certified Coach) credential from the International Coach Federation for many years
  • I have 7000 hours of individual, relationship and group coaching experience
  • I’m a graduate of The Interchange Counseling program.

I’ve committed my life to helping men have breakthroughs in the bedroom

One of the reasons I’m so good at what I do — and why I can have so much empathy for guys who have sex or relationship issues — is because I spent so much of my life being completely confused about sex and relationships.

I was raised in a strict religious household in the Deep South. A late bloomer, I didn’t kiss a girl until I was in my 20s. And later that decade, when I finally found a woman I wanted to marry, she left me because I wasn’t “bringing it” in the bedroom.

After my fiancée moved out, I began an intensive period of sexual self-discovery.

I wanted to know, firsthand, if it was possible to have truly fulfilling intimacy. Over the next ten years, I studied extensively with a variety of teachers and organizations, including David Deida, The Human Awareness Institute, MORE University, and numerous individual teachers and guides. I started to apply what I was learning in my relationships with the different women I was dating or lived with.

Over time, I finally felt satisfied with myself as a sexual man.

My self-guided sexual curriculum culminated in a Skydancing Tantra teacher training, where I met the woman who brought tantra to the West, Margot Anand (author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy). A year after my graduation, Margot and I began leading workshops together in the US and Europe.

It has been profoundly healing for me to be in the presence of a real man such as Jim. He truly embodies the important male archetypes of the King, the Warrior, the Magician, and the Lover.”

— Margot Anand, author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

A lifetime of experience balancing body, mind, and soul

I’m a certified SkyDancing Tantra teacher, supporting students and teachers-in-training in the US and Europe since 2003.

Together with my gifted wife, Jessica Wolk Benson, MFT, I lead workshops focused on relationship dynamics, polarity, and self-sovereignity.

In previous incarnations, I wrote two books and over 50 magazine articles on the confluence of technology, art, and graphic design. 

One more fun fact: I was also a world champion in two different frisbee sports wink

Self-Study Program

My programs synthesize the best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.

I can now show up as my full feminine self

As a woman who has worked one-on-one with Jim, I can testify without reservation that Jim is absolutely respectful and honoring of me as a woman, yet at the same time able to facilitate me showing up as my full feminine self in all its amazing facets. I have found all my contact with Jim to be nurturing, enlightening, soul-awakening and ultimately satisfying.”

— Olivia F., MA, ABS, Vancouver, BC

Here’s how we can work together

Self-Study Program

My programs synthesize the best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.

Sex & Relationship Coaching

I’ve worked with hundreds of men, and you’d be surprised just how common your challenges are. Men from all backgrounds have hired me to launch them into new heights and depths of sexual connection.

More aware of my sexual power in every situation…”

“There is a permanent difference in every sexual encounter I have because of Jim Benson’s teaching. In our coaching work, Jim took me to places that had never occurred to me. Those places taught me to explore new and exciting vistas, to be more of a man, and to become more aware of my sexual power in every situation – not just in sex, but in all areas of my life.”

— Ephraim M, Boulder, CO

A deep connection with my mature masculinity…”

The core benefit of working with Jim was a direct and deep connection with my mature masculinity. It wasn’t something I could get from books or videos, although I definitely tried. Growing up I didn’t have healthy masculine models. Friends and family are now noticing that I’m showing up in a different, healthier way.”

— Morgan C, Tempe AZ

I’ve never been happier…

I just married the woman of my dreams and I don’t believe that it would have happened without Jim Benson’s help and guidance. His faith in me never wavered. Jim helped me move beyond that part inside of me that didn’t think I deserved to have it all. Well, now I do. I’ve never been happier.”

James W, Baton Rouge, LA