Hi, I’m Jim Benson.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully.

For the past 20 years, I have been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” My Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.

  • I’m trained as a professional coach at the Coaches Training Institute and I held the PCC (Professional Certified Coach) credential from the International Coach Federation for many years
  • I have 7000 hours of individual, relationship and group coaching experience
  • I’m a graduate of The Interchange Counseling program.

I’ve committed my life to helping men have breakthroughs in the bedroom

One of the reasons I’m so good at what I do — and why I can have so much empathy for guys who have sex or relationship issues — is because I spent so much of my life being completely confused about sex and relationships.

I was raised in a strict religious household in the Deep South. A late bloomer, I didn’t kiss a girl until I was in my 20s. And later that decade, when I finally found a woman I wanted to marry, she left me because I wasn’t “bringing it” in the bedroom.

After my fiancée moved out, I began an intensive period of sexual self-discovery.

I wanted to know, firsthand, if it was possible to have truly fulfilling intimacy. Over the next ten years, I studied extensively with a variety of teachers and organizations, including David Deida, The Human Awareness Institute, MORE University, and numerous individual teachers and guides. I started to apply what I was learning in my relationships with the different women I was dating or lived with.

Over time, I finally felt satisfied with myself as a sexual man.

My self-guided sexual curriculum culminated in a Skydancing Tantra teacher training, where I met the woman who brought tantra to the West, Margot Anand (author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy). A year after my graduation, Margot and I began leading workshops together in the US and Europe.

It has been profoundly healing for me to be in the presence of a real man such as Jim. He truly embodies the important male archetypes of the King, the Warrior, the Magician, and the Lover.”

— Margot Anand, author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

A lifetime of experience balancing body, mind, and soul

I’m a certified SkyDancing Tantra teacher, supporting students and teachers-in-training in the US and Europe since 2003.

Together with my gifted wife, Jessica Wolk Benson, MFT, I lead workshops focused on relationship dynamics, polarity, and self-sovereignity.

In previous incarnations, I wrote two books and over 50 magazine articles on the confluence of technology, art, and graphic design. 

One more fun fact: I was also a world champion in two different frisbee sports wink

As a woman who has worked one-on-one with Jim, I can testify without reservation that Jim is absolutely respectful and honoring of me as a woman, yet at the same time able to facilitate me showing up as my full feminine self in all its amazing facets. I have found all my contact with Jim to be nurturing, enlightening, soul-awakening and ultimately satisfying.”

— Olivia F., MA, ABS, Vancouver, BC

Self-Study Program

My programs synthesize the best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.